holahydra:

heyyue:

andiamburdenedwithgloriousfeels:

riddlemehiddleston:


This came into work today. I shortlisted it and displayed it on my cafe counter.
The back said something like “He is into BDSM. (Batman, Dragons, Star Wars, and Magic the Gathering).”
The first paragraph starts like this:

“I growl with frustration at my reflection in the mirror. My hair is fifty shades of messed up. Why is it so kinky and out of control? I need to stop sleeping with it wet. As I brush my long brown hair, the girl in the mirror brown eyes too big for her, stares back at me. Wait… my eyes are blue! It dawns on me that I haven’t been looking in the mirror—I’ve been staring at a poster of Kirsten Stewart for the past five minutes. My own hair is fine.”


my own hair is fine
oh my god where can i buy this


I need this book in my life! Someone please buy me this book! I’ll love you 5ever!!!

thats a barnes and noble

The praises at the beginning of the book tho:
“I’m laughing as much as I was when I read the original Fifty Shades.” —Alyssa Palmer, erotic romance author of Prohibited Passion
“I’m not telling you to buy Fifty Shames of Earl Grey because I’m banging the author. I’m telling you to buy Fifty Shames of Earl Grey AND I’m banging the author.” —Tiffany Reisz, author of the BDSM erotica series, The Original Sinners
cinematographers:

The master

Anonymous said: Holy shit. I was just thinking that myself; just because my family are allistic doesn't mean I know all about allism. I don't try to pretend to I know either.

autisticfandomthings:

kipplekipple:

autisticfandomthings:

Only allistic people can truly understand allism.

PEOPLE WITH ALLISM jfc. We might forget they’re people!!!

Oh my god! I’m so sorry, I forgot. I won’t define them by their disorder again, it’s so easy to forget that they’re human.


3 hours ago // 44 notes
missoyashirou:

boreism:

autism-really-speaks:

boreism:

autism-really-speaks:

boreism:

So, this happened yesterday. Someone who is supposed to be one of my very best friends informed me that she knows me better than my family knows me, and better than I know myself. And that she knows autism better than the professional who helped me and my family understand that I’m autistic.
There is no discussion about it. It doesn’t matter what I say, she refuses to believe it. She sees autism as an excuse, when for me, it’s been the opposite. I’ve stopped blaming others for not understanding me, for being offended by me, for ignoring me. I’m finally able to learn better social skills and coping techniques because now I’m aware that I need them. No excuse - just an explanation for things that have been a struggle for me my entire life. With this knowledge, I’m better able to change things for myself and be a better friend, daughter, sister, girlfriend. How is that an excuse?
I don’t think she realizes how hurtful and demeaning this is, but it’s upsetting me a lot. I don’t really have a lot of friends to begin with, and I don’t want to lose one like this.

She knows you, one autistic person. She knows ONE autistic person. She knows maybe two autistics. Maybe three. Maybe ten or twenty. But every single autistic person is different in their own way. I am not representative of you, just as you are not of me.
It truly is unfortunate that your friend is like this, but she needs to understand. Is there nothing you, or someone you may know, can do? Perhaps use some sort of analogy she can understand?
-Volpe

I did consider using the buffet analogy… that my plate might not have the same things on it as someone else’s, but it’s all still food. Maybe two autistic people both have sensory issues, but for one, it’s tactile and the other, auditory. Just as NTs aren’t clones of each other, neither are autistics. But when I tried to explain or rationalize, I was met with ‘I don’t care, I know you’re not autistic.’
She also said she (along with other mutual friends) is angry that I would think that I’m autistic when they know other people who are ‘really autistic’. The idea of a spectrum means nothing to her.
I don’t want to just give up on one of the few friendships I’ve managed to keep for more than a decade, but… I feel like I have to hide parts of myself from her. And I can’t be honest with her about my feelings because she thinks they are invalid, and even worse, lies.

Given what’s provided here, as unfortunate as it sounds, I say ditch this friendship…
"I don’t care, I know you’re not autistic." literally makes me want to punch this person in the face, and I’m not even a violent person…
-Volpe

I know, right? It was infuriating. I feel like my replies were all very carefully thought out and informative, but it didn’t matter at all what I said.
I did consider posting more screencaps of the conversation, but I don’t think it would give you a better impression. It was horrible.
It’s hard for me to consider giving up after more than ten years of being there for each other. We even lived together for a year or two. But I don’t know what else I can do.

I just can’t understand why she can’t accept that there’s nuance and different levels to autism. Everything has different levels and nuances, every goddamn thing that exists. Can she accept the idea of demisexuals? What about someone who’s okay with a song, not avidly hating or loving it, but keeping it on their radio. Like, what makes you think it’s okay to tell someone “your autism is not as strong enough as I’ve seen it in the past, so clearly it’s not true”, despite the fact she should know you well enough, in those ten years, to see the difference between you pre-diagnosed and post-diagnosed. Did she not notice all of the positive bonuses you’ve received since you were diagnosed, and the effort you’ve made to understand people and social interaction better? She just sounds incredibly impolite, and not very smart. 

That is the part that I am struggling with the most, too. She is just completely closed-off to even considering the possibility, which is just so ridiculous to me. She isn’t the same as every other NT person out there, so why would she possibly think every autistic person would be exactly the same?I did try to explain to her how my life has changed since learning about AS, but she refuses to believe that any of the issues I’ve had are at all related. I explained to her that I was in counselling as a child because I didn’t understand non-verbal communication or facial expressions, and because I didn’t know how to express my emotions in the ‘correct’ way. She thinks that’s normal for a ten year old, and thinks the counselling was unnecessary. A lot of my communication issues were lessened when I was around her, though, because I felt comfortable and didn’t care so much about other people. I used to blame other people for my frustrations with socializing, too. They were too easily offended, they didn’t understand me, they didn’t matter to me anyway. As I’ve gotten older, it’s become much more of a concern for me because I’ve realized that I actually NEED to get along with other people to be a functioning adult. To her, this is just me being lazy and not wanting to do anything, when it’s actually just that I don’t know how. But this has given me the tools to LEARN how, and she sees is as an excuse. I don’t even understand how that makes sense to her. It’s totally backwards to me.
autism-really-speaks:

boreism:

autism-really-speaks:

boreism:

So, this happened yesterday. Someone who is supposed to be one of my very best friends informed me that she knows me better than my family knows me, and better than I know myself. And that she knows autism better than the professional who helped me and my family understand that I’m autistic.

There is no discussion about it. It doesn’t matter what I say, she refuses to believe it. She sees autism as an excuse, when for me, it’s been the opposite. I’ve stopped blaming others for not understanding me, for being offended by me, for ignoring me. I’m finally able to learn better social skills and coping techniques because now I’m aware that I need them. No excuse - just an explanation for things that have been a struggle for me my entire life. With this knowledge, I’m better able to change things for myself and be a better friend, daughter, sister, girlfriend. How is that an excuse?

I don’t think she realizes how hurtful and demeaning this is, but it’s upsetting me a lot. I don’t really have a lot of friends to begin with, and I don’t want to lose one like this.

She knows you, one autistic person.  She knows ONE autistic person. She knows maybe two autistics. Maybe three.  Maybe ten or twenty.  But every single autistic person is different in their own way. I am not representative of you, just as you are not of me.   It truly is unfortunate that your friend is like this, but she needs to understand. Is there nothing you, or someone you may know, can do?   Perhaps use some sort of analogy she can understand?   -Volpe

I did consider using the buffet analogy… that my plate might not have the same things on it as someone else’s, but it’s all still food. Maybe two autistic people both have sensory issues, but for one,  it’s tactile and the other, auditory. Just as NTs aren’t clones of each other, neither are autistics. But when I tried to explain or rationalize, I was met with ‘I don’t care, I know you’re not autistic.’She also said she (along with other mutual friends) is angry that I would think that I’m autistic when they know other people who are ‘really autistic’. The idea of a spectrum means nothing to her. I don’t want to just give up on one of the few friendships I’ve managed to keep for more than a decade, but… I feel like I have to hide parts of myself from her. And I can’t be honest with her about my feelings because she thinks they are invalid, and even worse, lies.

Given what’s provided here, as unfortunate as it sounds, I say ditch this friendship…  "I don’t care, I know you’re not autistic." literally makes me want to punch this person in the face, and I’m not even a violent person…  -Volpe

I know, right? It was infuriating. I feel like my replies were all very carefully thought out and informative, but it didn’t matter at all what I said. I did consider posting more screencaps of the conversation, but I don’t think it would give you a better impression. It was horrible.It’s hard for me to consider giving up after more than ten years of being there for each other. We even lived together for a year or two. But I don’t know what else I can do.